Conflict & Resolution
Why Words Only Hurt When They Land
The words that hurt us only land because they've found something inside us that already matters — and that pain is pointing somewhere worth looking.
Predictive Processing
Conflict & Resolution
You Won't Have to Dodge
The Matrix's most misunderstood line isn't about speed; it's about what happens when you've done enough inner work that other people's words simply lose their power to trigger you.
Collaboration
Why the Smartest Person in the Room Is Often Wrong in Predictable Ways
High expertise builds strong mental priors that improve pattern recognition in familiar domains but systematically filter out disconfirming signals in novel situations, making smart people wrong in predictable ways that can be countered through structural practices like pre-mortems and red teaming.
Collaboration
Why Your Difficult Colleague Isn't Who You Think They Are
The person you find most difficult at work is largely a mental model your brain constructed and keeps confirming through selective perception — and naming your specific predictions before an interaction can interrupt that automatic loop.
Self-Awareness
How to Interrupt a Narrative Before It Controls You
Your brain writes its story before you're aware of it, but three cognitive interventions — interoceptive awareness, affect labeling, and deliberate model-switching — let you slip into the gap before perception locks in.
Conflict & Resolution
Why Being Right Feels Like Survival
Your brain treats challenges to deeply held beliefs as existential threats, which is why rational argument almost never resolves deep conflict.
Conflict & Resolution
Conflict Isn't About What Happened — It's About Two Incompatible Models
Conflict isn't a disagreement about facts; it's two people running incompatible predictive models, where feelings are the output of that prediction process, not the cause of the conflict.
Self-Awareness
You Are the Stories You've Stopped Questioning
Your brain's default state is narrative construction, and the self-concept you treat as fact is actually a story you forgot you were writing.
Self-Awareness
The Story Arrives Before the Facts Do
Your brain generates a narrative before any conversation begins, and that prior shapes what evidence you notice, amplify, or discard entirely.
Self-Awareness
Your Brain Is Not a Camera
Your brain doesn't passively record reality; it generates a constant predictive model of the world and only updates it when the evidence forces a correction.
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Allostasis
Most of us were taught, implicitly or otherwise, that the brain is primarily a thinking machine. It processes information, makes decisions, manages emotions, and coordinates behavior. That model is not wrong exactly, but it's incomplete in a way that matters. The past two decades of research in regulatory
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The Predictive Brain
How your brain actually works — and why it matters at work Most of what people believe about how the brain works is wrong. Not wrong in a minor, fixable way. Wrong at the foundation. The standard picture — brain receives information, processes it, and reacts — is a fiction. A convincing one,